Word of the Year…It’s NOT too Late!

Yes, I know its April but it’s taken me until now to be 100% sure what I wanted my word of the year to be.  My past words have included balance, gratitude, and completion. This year I took a different approach. I asked a question. “What is the one habit or way of being I would like to shift this year?”.  The thing that kept showing itself to me, was how easy it was for me to be shaken up.  This happened in traffic, with my husband, with co-workers, relatives, hell just about anywhere and anytime I had my triggers pushed.

I began to notice my frequent habit of becoming a victim of circumstances. I also noticed, this “habit”, this “reaction”, creates stress in my body. Neither of these two things is appealing to me at all! I want to be a strong person, stress free and full of energy.  So…. what do I need to be? UNSHAKEABLE.

This is the first year I have taken the time to really delve deep into what is wanting to emerge from me, remembering who I am and why I am here on this planet at this time. In order for me to walk the path I’ve chosen, being unshakeable is required.

So I am doing it, daily. When a situation arises and I feel triggered, I simply say “thank you for this opportunity to practice being unshakeable”. At first it wasn’t easy at all, it was actually really damn hard but that is what practice is about, doing something until we master it. Every day is about making clear and mindful choices about how I choose to feel, beyond what anyone else does or says, beyond circumstances I perceive as negative.

This “practice” in itself has become part of MY self-blisscipline. Being strong makes me feel truly blissful. Being in control of how I feel keeps me in balance. THIS is what the concept of self-blisscipline is all about, taking time to discover and remember what it is that makes us truly blissful then putting those things into practice.  Through mastering the art of self-blisscipline we create a bliss filled and inspired life.

Try it yourself.  Ask, “What is seeking to emerge through me?” – “Who am I?” – “What habit or state of being do I want to shift?”, then sit with these questions without expectation and see what unfolds.



The 21 Day Complaining Fast

There is an old saying that goes something like…”if you don’t like the world around you, change your view of the world.” This could come across as just a cliche’ or even more so, a bunch of bullshit because “have you seen the news this morning?”

This does not diminish the FACT that perception creates experience.  I know this (deep down) but guess what, I still complain all the time. I mean ALL the time.  My dark secret revealed. Traffic sucks,  Trump sucks, Hillary sucks, I hate living in the city, My butts too big… you get the picture.

I wrote the bulk of this (below) post two years ago and the results were amazing. I’ve decided its time to do it again. I need it! Recent events both worldly and personal have instigated the need for a perception shift. As of today I declare for myself a 21 day complaining fast.

So if you have something negative, gossipy or whiny to say,  kindly and with much love, I ask you to keep it to yourself.  If you resonate with what I have said at all, join me and lets see if we can start a revolution of positivity. One thing is for sure, it won’t harm anything and it just might make our lives a little bit brighter.

Are you up for a challenge?

Commit to not complaining (this includes gossiping) about ANYTHING for 21 days. If you complain, then you start over at day 1 and do it again. Sounds simple, but once you try it you’ll realize that most of the conversation in our society centers around complaining, which lets face it. Is essentially whining and nobody wants to hear that shit.

But don’t fret – if you slip up, turn it around. Let’s say, you say, “This traffic sucks.” (you realize you just complained) “but…now I can finally finish that audio book I started.” It completely changes the energy of the situation from negative to positive which raises your vibration thus bringing more positive people and situations into your life.

Here’s a video I found by Rabbi Telushkin, where he talks a little more about not complaining. He suggests going complaint free for a day but I say push yourself. Go 21 days and see what happens. I promise you’ll happier by day 22 and so will the people around you.

8 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint Free (borrowed from Christine Kane)

First off, let’s get one thing out-of-the-way:

This is not about “being nice.” This is much deeper.

It’s about understanding the power of your Attention.

If you have a big juicy intention or goal – then your attention is the daily practice of manifesting that goal or dream.  It is the essence of Creativity.

I want you to experience the power of shifting your attention from the so-called problem, so it can attract the many solutions!

Here are 8 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Today:

1 – When you’re complaint-free, you find solutions rather than staying mucked in the problem.

If you don’t offer yourself the option of complaining, then you train your brain to actually find solutions and get ideas. As Maya Angelou says, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”

2 – When you’re complaint-free, you shrink your ego.

Complaining is like weight-training for your ego.

It makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong. And it makes YOU right. Your ego gets puffed up.  When you cease the complaining/criticizing/gossiping habit, you tell your ego that your spirit is in charge, not your ego!

3 – After 21-Days, you’ve started a new habit and created a new you.

Research shows that it takes 21-days to form a new habit.  And while it does take some trial and error to get through those 21-days, most of my clients notice that after only 7-days, they tolerate negativity less.  After 2-weeks, they report that when they slip up, they instantly self-correct!

4 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation starter.

Imaginary scenario:

Hal rushes into your office to complain (gossip) about a co-worker.

You get to smile and say, “Gosh Hal, you know, I’d love to join in, but I’m in the middle of a complaining fast.”

Hal says, “Huh? What’s that?”

Poof!  The energy of the conversation shifts!  It goes in a different direction, and you experience wildly exciting lightness where gossip would have once existed!

5 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation deepener.

Hal will listen for a while and then say, “Wow, that’s a great idea. I’ve noticed how easy it is to complain, and I want to be more self-responsible…”

You’ll share a deeper connection when you each admit your authentic dreams and goals.

6 – When you’re complaint-free, you attract new energy.

When you go complaint free, you simply start attracting more positive people to you. The negative people will walk away and think you’re a complete idiot. But then, you’ll start noticing positive curious people entering your life because you’re so much fun to be around.

7 – When you’re complaint-free, you banish lazy thinking.

Think about it.

You can’t get much lazier than complaining and gossiping.  It’s the same well-worn neural pathway you’ve trudged down day after day, along with 99% of the population. When you’re complaint-free, you go a different route. With alertness and alacrity, you find new ways of seeing things. (Plus, you get to use words like alacrity!)

8 – When you’re complaint-free, you create happiness.

It’s challenging at first, yes.

But after a few weeks, the common response I get from my clients is this:  “You know what?  I’m SO much happier!”

That’s because complaining is just a habit, and it does nothing but drag us down. When your attention is forced to find new places to land, your subconscious becomes a “happiness-seeking missile.”  And because you’re so powerful, you find it!

How Doing Nothing Can Lead to Everything


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German Philosopher Josef Pieper once wrote, “Leisure is a form of that stillness that is necessary preparation for accepting reality; only the person who is still can hear, and whoever is not still, cannot hear. “

If we cannot hear,  we stand the chance of missing those occasional divine whispers which guide us towards the discovery of our most authentic selves. The moments when we hear the answer, see the solution, understand our next steps.

Unplugging from tasks and taking time to do nothing, on a daily basis, just might lead you to everything you are seeking as well as magical adventures you did not know were possible. I for one am willing to give it a try.

Here’s a great, short video, I love. Its an artsy little film by George Abingdon. I hope you enjoy it and I hope you take time today to stop and listen.


What’s Your 2014 Word of The Year?



It is nearing the end of January.   After a month of meditating and introspection it has become very clear to me that “balance” best defines everything I want to cultivate this year.

Last year I launched my own business. Having had this dream for such a long time, I threw everything  into it, working tirelessly to get it up and running in the pursuit of financial freedom.  I did this without much structure or intention.

Slowly, throughout the year, I felt many things in my life falling out of balance. This included my health, my marriage, my finances, and my sanity. I was working my proverbial ass off to get the business moving. In retrospect  I could have worked less AND kept my sanity if I had only taken time to set my intentions.

This year I am reclaiming my bliss by setting my intentions and creating my “word” for 2014.

Coming up with a “word of the year” was a tool I learned from one of my mentors, Christine Kane.  The first year I tried this, I experienced a profound evolution within myself.  I believe this evolution was a direct result from my setting my intentions for the year.

So, after much deliberation I decided on “BALANCE” as my word for 2014.  I am going to take the image you see here and print it, then put it up in my house so it reminds me of my intention whenever I look at it. I recommend you do the same with your word. Find an image or create one with your word on it and put it where you will see it everyday.

What can you see within yourself that you want to cultivate?

What is your word of the year?

Some people like to keep their word personal and close to their heart. Personally, I find if I shout it from the rooftops, it creates a bigger vibration for me and better results. If you are like me, please share your word with us, we’d love to hold it in vision for you.

Here is a helpful and fun video created by Christine Kane explaining the power of picking a word of the year.  She even includes a “word of the year discovery tool” to help you select your word with clarity and intention. She made this video in 2009, but the information is timeless.

I hope you get as much out of this practice as I do.

Have fun, and may 2014 bring you buckets full of bliss! Cheers!

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life


brain-rgb-sm-300x300“Your brain is the organ of your personality, character, and intelligence and is heavily involved in making you who you are.”  Daniel Amen said this. Learning about his work, helped me make a connection  I have never made before.  The health of our brain determines the quality and longevity of our lives.

Unhealthy brain = unhealthy life.  Fact.

Take a minute to take this in, it may be the single most important bit of information you ever learn.

Most of my posts at Self Blisscipline focus on what I hope,  helps to create  healthier brains. I am talking about the energetic mind as well as the physical brain itself. Did you know that 1/3 of the nutrients we eat go directly to the brain? Did you know that negative thoughts actually affect how our brain functions in every moment? Did you know that being overweight has as much affect on damaging our brain as physical brain injuries?  I did not know any of this until I saw Daniel Amen’s TED Talk.

In order to create a life we love, we need to start thinking about our brains and how our everyday actions affect its development.  And…if you are concerned your brain may not be in the best shape, don’t fret. You can begin reversing the damage in as little as two months!  There is no time like the present to start doing just that.

So, take little time to watch this TED Talk. By sharing this information I hope to have taken a step towards making my own brain healthy AND yours as well.  Here’s to healthy brains and lots of Self Blisscipline in 2014! Enjoy.

Making a Dream Board in 20 Minutes



Step One: Cut out pictures of things you love.

Step Two: Paste them onto paper.

Step Three: Realize your life’s ambition?

It may not work exactly like this, but its not too far off.  I’ve made many dream boards in my adult life. I used to call them vision boards because I would sit down, make a five year plan, outline goals, look at material items I desired, then culminate it all into one big pile of images and paste them on a board. I found this method tedious and sometimes – oftentimes – not heart felt.   What I came to realize is,  it is how I feel when I look at the images which helps to alter the flow of energy around me.  It is not the image itself.

So, I started going through magazines quickly and with intuition only pulling images that I got a big “ah-ha or ooh” feeling from. Once I had a big pile, I went back through and did the same thing again.  What resulted is a board full of images that made my heart sing.

Doing this is a very fun and creative meditative practice which helps to align your higher self with your physical body, which is how manifestation of dreams is seeded.

Now, normally, I love paper and magazines and cutting and pasting and getting messy. However, this morning I found this really cool digital tool on Oprah.com. It lets you make a digital vision board (and no you don’t have to be a photoshop pro to do this) easily AND its super fun.  I took about 20 minutes this morning to make one and it changed the outlook on my whole day.  It helped me remember who I am and what I want right now in my life.  This my dear friends, is how dreams are made real.

Check it out…















Click HERE to make a digital vision board now.

If you want to read a complete article by Martha Beck on “How to Make a Vision Board” click HERE


Michael Beckwith on the Status Quo

Without the Reverend Michael Beckwith,  I would probably not be writing this blog or creating art for a living. He is the first person I ever heard use the word “blisscipline” and was the spark that helped me ignite this new phase of my life.

I was thinking this morning about how I got where I am right now and how freaking scary it was (and sometimes still is) to jump out of my safety net. It is no wonder that most people stay “stuck” in their current  life situation because they falsely believe it’s safe. This belief comes from the idea, that  if what we are doing comes with a steady paycheck and is reflective of the status quo then it is safe – our bills will be paid, our 401K will be secure and there is surely a place in Florida for us to retire nicely at the ripe age of 65.

Here’s a little secret…we are not here to strengthen the status quo, we are here to move mountains. We are here to share our talents and gifts with humanity because this is what creates evolution – emotional, spiritual, global, personal. And…we do not have to give up abundance to do it. In fact, when we are following our bliss there is no limit to what we can create.

 I think Michael Beckwith says it best in this video  – “Everyone is here to find their little way to stretch the mind of humanity…you may be the person who creates a movement.”