There is an old saying that goes something like…”if you don’t like the world around you, change your view of the world.” This could come across as just a cliche’ or even more so, a bunch of bullshit because “have you seen the news this morning?”
This does not diminish the FACT that perception creates experience. I know this (deep down) but guess what, I still complain all the time. I mean ALL the time. My dark secret revealed. Traffic sucks, Trump sucks, Hillary sucks, I hate living in the city, My butts too big… you get the picture.
I wrote the bulk of this (below) post two years ago and the results were amazing. I’ve decided its time to do it again. I need it! Recent events both worldly and personal have instigated the need for a perception shift. As of today I declare for myself a 21 day complaining fast.
So if you have something negative, gossipy or whiny to say, kindly and with much love, I ask you to keep it to yourself. If you resonate with what I have said at all, join me and lets see if we can start a revolution of positivity. One thing is for sure, it won’t harm anything and it just might make our lives a little bit brighter.
Are you up for a challenge?
Commit to not complaining (this includes gossiping) about ANYTHING for 21 days. If you complain, then you start over at day 1 and do it again. Sounds simple, but once you try it you’ll realize that most of the conversation in our society centers around complaining, which lets face it. Is essentially whining and nobody wants to hear that shit.
But don’t fret – if you slip up, turn it around. Let’s say, you say, “This traffic sucks.” (you realize you just complained) “but…now I can finally finish that audio book I started.” It completely changes the energy of the situation from negative to positive which raises your vibration thus bringing more positive people and situations into your life.
Here’s a video I found by Rabbi Telushkin, where he talks a little more about not complaining. He suggests going complaint free for a day but I say push yourself. Go 21 days and see what happens. I promise you’ll happier by day 22 and so will the people around you.
8 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint Free (borrowed from Christine Kane)
First off, let’s get one thing out-of-the-way:
This is not about “being nice.” This is much deeper.
It’s about understanding the power of your Attention.
If you have a big juicy intention or goal – then your attention is the daily practice of manifesting that goal or dream. It is the essence of Creativity.
I want you to experience the power of shifting your attention from the so-called problem, so it can attract the many solutions!
Here are 8 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Today:
1 – When you’re complaint-free, you find solutions rather than staying mucked in the problem.
If you don’t offer yourself the option of complaining, then you train your brain to actually find solutions and get ideas. As Maya Angelou says, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
2 – When you’re complaint-free, you shrink your ego.
Complaining is like weight-training for your ego.
It makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong. And it makes YOU right. Your ego gets puffed up. When you cease the complaining/criticizing/gossiping habit, you tell your ego that your spirit is in charge, not your ego!
3 – After 21-Days, you’ve started a new habit and created a new you.
Research shows that it takes 21-days to form a new habit. And while it does take some trial and error to get through those 21-days, most of my clients notice that after only 7-days, they tolerate negativity less. After 2-weeks, they report that when they slip up, they instantly self-correct!
4 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation starter.
Hal rushes into your office to complain (gossip) about a co-worker.
You get to smile and say, “Gosh Hal, you know, I’d love to join in, but I’m in the middle of a complaining fast.”
Hal says, “Huh? What’s that?”
Poof! The energy of the conversation shifts! It goes in a different direction, and you experience wildly exciting lightness where gossip would have once existed!
5 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation deepener.
Hal will listen for a while and then say, “Wow, that’s a great idea. I’ve noticed how easy it is to complain, and I want to be more self-responsible…”
You’ll share a deeper connection when you each admit your authentic dreams and goals.
6 – When you’re complaint-free, you attract new energy.
When you go complaint free, you simply start attracting more positive people to you. The negative people will walk away and think you’re a complete idiot. But then, you’ll start noticing positive curious people entering your life because you’re so much fun to be around.
7 – When you’re complaint-free, you banish lazy thinking.
Think about it.
You can’t get much lazier than complaining and gossiping. It’s the same well-worn neural pathway you’ve trudged down day after day, along with 99% of the population. When you’re complaint-free, you go a different route. With alertness and alacrity, you find new ways of seeing things. (Plus, you get to use words like alacrity!)
8 – When you’re complaint-free, you create happiness.
It’s challenging at first, yes.
But after a few weeks, the common response I get from my clients is this: “You know what? I’m SO much happier!”
That’s because complaining is just a habit, and it does nothing but drag us down. When your attention is forced to find new places to land, your subconscious becomes a “happiness-seeking missile.” And because you’re so powerful, you find it!