The 21 Day Complaining Fast

There is an old saying that goes something like…”if you don’t like the world around you, change your view of the world.” This could come across as just a cliche’ or even more so, a bunch of bullshit because “have you seen the news this morning?”

This does not diminish the FACT that perception creates experience.  I know this (deep down) but guess what, I still complain all the time. I mean ALL the time.  My dark secret revealed. Traffic sucks,  Trump sucks, Hillary sucks, I hate living in the city, My butts too big… you get the picture.

I wrote the bulk of this (below) post two years ago and the results were amazing. I’ve decided its time to do it again. I need it! Recent events both worldly and personal have instigated the need for a perception shift. As of today I declare for myself a 21 day complaining fast.

So if you have something negative, gossipy or whiny to say,  kindly and with much love, I ask you to keep it to yourself.  If you resonate with what I have said at all, join me and lets see if we can start a revolution of positivity. One thing is for sure, it won’t harm anything and it just might make our lives a little bit brighter.

Are you up for a challenge?

Commit to not complaining (this includes gossiping) about ANYTHING for 21 days. If you complain, then you start over at day 1 and do it again. Sounds simple, but once you try it you’ll realize that most of the conversation in our society centers around complaining, which lets face it. Is essentially whining and nobody wants to hear that shit.

But don’t fret – if you slip up, turn it around. Let’s say, you say, “This traffic sucks.” (you realize you just complained) “but…now I can finally finish that audio book I started.” It completely changes the energy of the situation from negative to positive which raises your vibration thus bringing more positive people and situations into your life.

Here’s a video I found by Rabbi Telushkin, where he talks a little more about not complaining. He suggests going complaint free for a day but I say push yourself. Go 21 days and see what happens. I promise you’ll happier by day 22 and so will the people around you.

8 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint Free (borrowed from Christine Kane)

First off, let’s get one thing out-of-the-way:

This is not about “being nice.” This is much deeper.

It’s about understanding the power of your Attention.

If you have a big juicy intention or goal – then your attention is the daily practice of manifesting that goal or dream.  It is the essence of Creativity.

I want you to experience the power of shifting your attention from the so-called problem, so it can attract the many solutions!

Here are 8 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Today:

1 – When you’re complaint-free, you find solutions rather than staying mucked in the problem.

If you don’t offer yourself the option of complaining, then you train your brain to actually find solutions and get ideas. As Maya Angelou says, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”

2 – When you’re complaint-free, you shrink your ego.

Complaining is like weight-training for your ego.

It makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong. And it makes YOU right. Your ego gets puffed up.  When you cease the complaining/criticizing/gossiping habit, you tell your ego that your spirit is in charge, not your ego!

3 – After 21-Days, you’ve started a new habit and created a new you.

Research shows that it takes 21-days to form a new habit.  And while it does take some trial and error to get through those 21-days, most of my clients notice that after only 7-days, they tolerate negativity less.  After 2-weeks, they report that when they slip up, they instantly self-correct!

4 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation starter.

Imaginary scenario:

Hal rushes into your office to complain (gossip) about a co-worker.

You get to smile and say, “Gosh Hal, you know, I’d love to join in, but I’m in the middle of a complaining fast.”

Hal says, “Huh? What’s that?”

Poof!  The energy of the conversation shifts!  It goes in a different direction, and you experience wildly exciting lightness where gossip would have once existed!

5 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation deepener.

Hal will listen for a while and then say, “Wow, that’s a great idea. I’ve noticed how easy it is to complain, and I want to be more self-responsible…”

You’ll share a deeper connection when you each admit your authentic dreams and goals.

6 – When you’re complaint-free, you attract new energy.

When you go complaint free, you simply start attracting more positive people to you. The negative people will walk away and think you’re a complete idiot. But then, you’ll start noticing positive curious people entering your life because you’re so much fun to be around.

7 – When you’re complaint-free, you banish lazy thinking.

Think about it.

You can’t get much lazier than complaining and gossiping.  It’s the same well-worn neural pathway you’ve trudged down day after day, along with 99% of the population. When you’re complaint-free, you go a different route. With alertness and alacrity, you find new ways of seeing things. (Plus, you get to use words like alacrity!)

8 – When you’re complaint-free, you create happiness.

It’s challenging at first, yes.

But after a few weeks, the common response I get from my clients is this:  “You know what?  I’m SO much happier!”

That’s because complaining is just a habit, and it does nothing but drag us down. When your attention is forced to find new places to land, your subconscious becomes a “happiness-seeking missile.”  And because you’re so powerful, you find it!


What’s Your 2014 Word of The Year?



It is nearing the end of January.   After a month of meditating and introspection it has become very clear to me that “balance” best defines everything I want to cultivate this year.

Last year I launched my own business. Having had this dream for such a long time, I threw everything  into it, working tirelessly to get it up and running in the pursuit of financial freedom.  I did this without much structure or intention.

Slowly, throughout the year, I felt many things in my life falling out of balance. This included my health, my marriage, my finances, and my sanity. I was working my proverbial ass off to get the business moving. In retrospect  I could have worked less AND kept my sanity if I had only taken time to set my intentions.

This year I am reclaiming my bliss by setting my intentions and creating my “word” for 2014.

Coming up with a “word of the year” was a tool I learned from one of my mentors, Christine Kane.  The first year I tried this, I experienced a profound evolution within myself.  I believe this evolution was a direct result from my setting my intentions for the year.

So, after much deliberation I decided on “BALANCE” as my word for 2014.  I am going to take the image you see here and print it, then put it up in my house so it reminds me of my intention whenever I look at it. I recommend you do the same with your word. Find an image or create one with your word on it and put it where you will see it everyday.

What can you see within yourself that you want to cultivate?

What is your word of the year?

Some people like to keep their word personal and close to their heart. Personally, I find if I shout it from the rooftops, it creates a bigger vibration for me and better results. If you are like me, please share your word with us, we’d love to hold it in vision for you.

Here is a helpful and fun video created by Christine Kane explaining the power of picking a word of the year.  She even includes a “word of the year discovery tool” to help you select your word with clarity and intention. She made this video in 2009, but the information is timeless.

I hope you get as much out of this practice as I do.

Have fun, and may 2014 bring you buckets full of bliss! Cheers!

Yes you can do what you love AND make money – no shit.

Me with one of my commissioned murals for a restaurant in South Carolina.

Twelve years ago I was a freelance artist but my business skills were crap and I had no confidence. What I did have was a 5-year-old boy who needed to be fed, everyday. So, I put down my brushes and picked up the want ads. A few years and a few jobs later I found myself in the position of Vice President of a Public Relations firm.

Then, twelve months ago, I had a melt down.  My authentic self ( who had been buried deep inside for 12 years! ) said “NO MORE! LET ME OUT OF HERE!” – I popped.  Long story short, I decided to enroll in a self guided program, recommended by a friend, that literally changed my life. I figured out what I wanted and got clear on how to get there. I left the job I hated and started my own art and creative interiors business – the right way this time. (Senn City Studio – website coming, I promise!)

I AM doing what I love with success, finally! And the best part is I am making a good living doing it.  I want you to know it is possible to follow and live your bliss.

Christine Kane, one of my mentors, who created the program I did last year, is providing a free conference  call coming up on  March 1st where she is going to share specific steps to gaining success even when times seem uncertain. I’m proof that her programs work and if you know me and my story, then you know it’s true.

Click this link HERE  to learn more about the call. See you there!



What’s Your Word of The Year?

I want this year to be the best year ever, not just for myself, but for you too!

Last January during a women’s workshop I was introduced to the idea of selecting a “word of the year”.  At the time, it seemed so simple. I didn’t have  faith  it would have much impact on anything in my life. I was wrong;  surprisingly (wonderfully) wrong. Picking my word last year (truth) had such a powerful impact on my life, it actually set me on a completely different path.  I believe my intentions for selecting this word, created situations in my life that forced me to deal with what was true to me and in turn helped me get very clear about the life I wanted to begin living.

One of my mentors, Christine Kane, was kind enough to create this cool video explaining the power of picking a word of the year.  She even includes a “word of the year discovery tool” to help you select your word of the year with clarity and intention. I hope you get as much out of this practice as I continue to.

Enjoy and Happiest of New Years to You!